Its In My Humble Opinion jnnlat!! The problem here is that most people are aquaintances not friends. They still can be really nice people, and over time they may become friends, but theyre really not the same in most cases. Look through your contacts on your mobile - count how many you could call on in a real crisis. Who would drop everything to run to your door. In 11 years I can count on one hand the people here in Tenerife that fit that bill. Two of them I knew in the UK. A couple of them I met here, and one of them moves to the UK next week
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Originally Posted by Mike in Chayofa
Absolutely correct.
In my contacts list there are only two people that fit the bill - or three depending on whether the 3rd is here or in the UK.
There's also another 3 that I could call if I REALLY need to, but I wouldn't be happy about having to do it.
yeah agree with you both !! strange people on the Rock people who are happy to hurt or damage other peoples chance to earn a living , get on in life ,relationships etc strange strange people
Why do some people " pretend " to be freinds of yours or good aquaintances and then Suddenly Bang ! they ignore you , dont speak to you and you cant find out why?
It seems to happen on here as well as in " real life". Normally if someone stops talking there is a reason and you both know it so its up to either / or to try and break the ice and resolve, but if you dont know what you are supposed to have done/ not done how can you fix it?
Stop worrying about other people & worry about yourself! If somebody is prepared to ignore you over something petty, then do you really want to count on them as a friend???
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Originally Posted by SuzyQ
Look through your contacts on your mobile - count how many you could call on in a real crisis. Who would drop everything to run to your door
It would seem I am quite lucky with this one, but that is because of bonds that were formed during my time in the army. How many people do you know that YOU would drop everything for to help when they need you?
I've led a pretty nomadic existance, and always make aquaintances very easily. From the dozen or so towns I've lived in over the last 20 years, there is only one person I still keep in touch with, and probably 2 or 3 in our current location that I would class a s friends. Thats from a pool of hundreds, if not thousands I have met.
I guess it just takes time to set roots down.
For me, I appreciate that there are plenty of people I can make conversation with, but I wouldn't trust any of them.
On the other hand, sometimes people become so wrapped up in themselves, they forget other people also have busy lives full of problems.
I hadn´t heard back from a friend despite a few emails, so sent a further jokey "are you not talking to me now?" to get back a lovely email thanking me for having been there for them when they had a problem, saying how they would always be there for me in a crisis and detailling just how crazy their life had been the previous few weeks.
It was heart warming to receive, but also made me realise I had been too demanding to be expecting instant replies
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How many people do you know that YOU would drop everything for to help when they need you?
Probably the same handful who would drop everything for me - although I am a soft touch, and would never see anyone stuck.
Another problem is work commitments can often put the spoiler on forging new friendships. There are a few people I know who I really have a lot of time for, and would spend more time with if I had it. Uptown Girl is one of those. We catch up from time to time but then thats it for a couple of months
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