well, the time has come for me to make the decision regarding staying in the UK or moving to Tenerife.
things haven`t or aren`t going to plan (or as we thought) our house has not sold, so we are putting it up for rent/let.
but i still have the chance to move to Tenerife.......
we have a 14yr old son who is the major reason for moving now!!
we would love to get him into school life in Tenerife so that he can make friends, rather than leave it two years for him to finish school in the UK & then move, where then he will have no mates....
so what do you lot think? as the classic song says: should i stay or should i go now..i if stay there will be trouble.... if i go it will be double....
__________________ Scientists have discovered intelligent DNA in some women. Unfortunately 95% of them spat it out! To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
Check out our Bikini Range To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
You own your place over here, right? If you come over and it doesn't work out, at least you won't have sold your house, so you have something (or somewhere!) to go back to... and you will have an income from the house too... sounds like a better plan to me.
__________________
To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. | To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. |
To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
Please add our To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. to your bookmarks. Should this one ever go down, you'll still have a place to chat until it's back up again To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to KirstyJay For This Useful Post:
You own your place over here, right? If you come over and it doesn't work out, at least you won't have sold your house, so you have something (or somewhere!) to go back to... and you will have an income from the house too... sounds like a better plan to me.
Thank you Kirsty... I've been telling him that The only thing we will loss is his salary butttttt!!!! mine is plenty to cover the costs as I'm not planning on moving out just yet
__________________ im as mad as everyone else, the only difference is i know it To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
Join me on facebook!!
To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
I think it really depends on how much you are going to miss loobie when she is back in the uk, will you cope without her. I am not meaning that you cant do things around the house, I just mean will you miss her and will it put a strain on your relationship??
If she can come out as much as possible until she can move out here permanently then go for it, what have you go to lose, if you only rent out your house, then you can always go back to it.
If you dont try you will never know!
__________________
Not advertising anymore!!!!!
To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to graceylacey For This Useful Post:
We sold everything back in the UK 16 months ago and I moved to Tenerife with my two youngest who are now 16 and 18. My husband stayed in the UK, and is a self employed electrician,but this is exactly what we planned when we first decided to move to Tenerife. The plan was for him to stay there for approx 2 years and earn good money while we do the house here as we want it [ he doesn't know yet but it may be 3 years, I have seen a beautiful new kitchen] then after that for him to pick up bits and pieces of work to keep us fed and pay the bills. We are fortunate enough not to have a mortgage here so there is not the need for him to earn the amount that he is at present once he moves here.
He travels over every 3 or 4 weeks for 10 days or a fornight and for 4 weeks over Xmas and New Year. He is lucky that he is in the position to take time off when he wants and can earn a good amount when he is in the UK for a month.
As Gracey has said it is hard because we do miss each other but then that makes it all the better when we do see each other We would not have done anything different though, to see the change in our kids from when we first arrived to now is amazing, they have such a different lifestyle now, something that a lot of their mates living in the UK can only dream about.
With a 14 year old I would say MOVE NOW. My kids where 15 and 16 when we moved here and for the first 6 months or so the 16 year old found it hard to make friends as she had already left school, and although the 15 year old met friends at school here they both missed their mates and their local haunts back in the UK, but after both of them went back to the UK for a visit they both said they don't want to go back there to live ever. From my experience your son will make friends a lot easier if he is at school here as opposed to waiting until he is older.
Good Luck with whatever you decide, and Oniells there are plenty of us ladies as you well know who are experts at the housework side of things if you needed help
__________________
ELECTRICIAN We will beat any quote PM for details
The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to Jackie B For This Useful Post:
I just can't wait to move and we will be in a simular situation,(hubby will have to go back every 3/4 weeks for 5 days just to keep an eye on business) but to us the main concern is the welfare of our 3 kids andi no that they will have a FAR better life there in Tenerife than here in the UK.
Oneills just do it, if you don't then it will always be "what if". Whats the worst that can happen, you go back to the UK and i bet that once you leave the UK you will never go back.
Good LUck in what ever you decide but i am sure you already know the answer!
__________________ Always look on the bright side To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. of life To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to tc22 For This Useful Post:
Oneills, Loobie it is a very difficult decision to make. Owning a place maybe makes it a little easier, but our kids are our main concern, if they are happy so are we. You can only give it a try, cause if you don't try you may regret for a long time. If things don't work out how you expected, so what at least you had a go. Good luck whatever you decidexx
The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to gillwalsh For This Useful Post:
We sold everything back in the UK 16 months ago and I moved to Tenerife with my two youngest who are now 16 and 18. My husband stayed in the UK, and is a self employed electrician,but this is exactly what we planned when we first decided to move to Tenerife. The plan was for him to stay there for approx 2 years and earn good money while we do the house here as we want it [ he doesn't know yet but it may be 3 years, I have seen a beautiful new kitchen] then after that for him to pick up bits and pieces of work to keep us fed and pay the bills. We are fortunate enough not to have a mortgage here so there is not the need for him to earn the amount that he is at present once he moves here.
He travels over every 3 or 4 weeks for 10 days or a fornight and for 4 weeks over Xmas and New Year. He is lucky that he is in the position to take time off when he wants and can earn a good amount when he is in the UK for a month.
As Gracey has said it is hard because we do miss each other but then that makes it all the better when we do see each other We would not have done anything different though, to see the change in our kids from when we first arrived to now is amazing, they have such a different lifestyle now, something that a lot of their mates living in the UK can only dream about.
With a 14 year old I would say MOVE NOW. My kids where 15 and 16 when we moved here and for the first 6 months or so the 16 year old found it hard to make friends as she had already left school, and although the 15 year old met friends at school here they both missed their mates and their local haunts back in the UK, but after both of them went back to the UK for a visit they both said they don't want to go back there to live ever. From my experience your son will make friends a lot easier if he is at school here as opposed to waiting until he is older.
Good Luck with whatever you decide, and Oniells there are plenty of us ladies as you well know who are experts at the housework side of things if you needed help
JackieB thanks for your advice We only have a mortgage on the property in the UK and I could cover all the running costs; however I think Oneill is getting cold feet and is worrying over the smaller obstacles I would be able to visit every 4/5 weeks but Christmas time would be a problem as in my line of work it is classed as a normal working day but that has been the case for the last 16+ years and out of that time I have only ever seen my children open their christmas presents twice on christmas morning I worry that if he does not move now and leaves it till a later date our son will have many problems, no friends etc, etc.... and I would hate our son to blame us for ruining his teenage years (if you know what I mean?) As for the housework I think he may cope with the thought but would need help in actually doing it Due to being on crutches the Oneill thought he would help me out and clean the bathroom today I've not told him yet.. that there are smear marks on the tiles where he has just wiped them with a wet cloth
__________________ im as mad as everyone else, the only difference is i know it To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
Join me on facebook!!
To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
JackieB thanks for your advice We only have a mortgage on the property in the UK and I could cover all the running costs; however I think Oneill is getting cold feet and is worrying over the smaller obstacles I would be able to visit every 4/5 weeks but Christmas time would be a problem as in my line of work it is classed as a normal working day but that has been the case for the last 16+ years and out of that time I have only ever seen my children open their christmas presents twice on christmas morning I worry that if he does not move now and leaves it till a later date our son will have many problems, no friends etc, etc.... and I would hate our son to blame us for ruining his teenage years (if you know what I mean?) As for the housework I think he may cope with the thought but would need help in actually doing it Due to being on crutches the Oneill thought he would help me out and clean the bathroom today I've not told him yet.. that there are smear marks on the tiles where he has just wiped them with a wet cloth
The other problem you will have is if you don't move now then when will you?
I no i couldn't leave my child when he has just left school aged 16 say, or if he goes to uni then you will have longer to wait? You will be looking at say min 4 years is that to long for you to move over to Tenerife? If so then go NOW and get him settled in to a better life for him and yourselves!
__________________ Always look on the bright side To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. of life To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to tc22 For This Useful Post:
Difficult choice for you guys to make but I think you should go for it!! Seems to me that you have both made a lot of friends already and will make more when you are here permanently! As Jackie B said there will be lots of help for ONeills if he comes unstuck!! As for your son, well it's another hard decision, what does he think about it? It can be a fantastic life out here for kids, much more outdoors than UK but also as you say it might be hard for him to make friends. Saying that you both have made friends and i'm sure that some of them will have kids his age to talk to and help him settle in!! As for being apart well that will be a bit heart wrenching I imagine but also absence makes the heart grow fonder so they say! Imagine the excitement and butterflies in your stomach when you haven't been together for a while!!Good luck with whatever you decide to do!!
PS Jackie B where did you see your kitchen?? I'm looking for a new one and I haven't seen any I like!!
__________________ Scotch Corner Bar in San Eugenio, good grub, good laugh!! All footy shown on 3 plasma screens!! To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to Cara72 For This Useful Post:
... I've been telling him that
The only thing we will loss is his salary
butttttt!!!! mine is plenty to cover the costs as I'm not planning on moving out just yet
Linear Mode
