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 | |  21st June 2008, 23:47 | #1 (permalink) | | Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: adeje Gender:  Posts: 38 My Mood:  | Never a borrower or lender be - words from my mother.
well i didnt listen to hear and now n a pickle, i lent a friend some money and they are very slow at paying back, what do i do?  |  |  | | 22nd June 2008, 00:20 | #2 (permalink) | | Super Tenerifian Join Date: Nov 2006 Gender:  Posts: 519 | Whats a lener? Easy answer....lose the friend....walk away. If they were a real friend they would be talking to you about it, and not avoiding the subject.
Happened to me last year with a family i considered friends. Lent the guy money for a flight home so he could surprise his mum on her birthday as they were short, this was just before xmas...last November. I even gave them grace over xmas as they were a family and have a kid making my self short of cash for xmas. They talked about paying it back briefly in the January, then talk stopped. Then i noticed everytime i went around the apartment, she had bought new clothes, new furniture, new TV, new tropical fishtank etc....
It got to March and i lost my patience, and went around and demanded it. Needless to say i didnt get it. Lack of respect situation. If you feel they are disrespecting you...then you choose your friends...they dont choose you, and on this island people need good friends. There loss.
If that sounds harsh....bring up the subject with them gently...see how they respond. Personally i have no time for people like that, and im sure posting this here, you will here lots more horror stories!
Just hope it wasnt alot! | | | | | The Following User Says Thank You to simba66 For This Useful Post: | | | 22nd June 2008, 00:24 | #3 (permalink) | | Super Tenerifian Join Date: Aug 2007 Gender: Posts: 596 My Mood:  | You should be quite forthright but with a respectful tone. Money often breaks up friendships and marriages. Remember that you were the generous one in the first place.
Lynda | | | | | 22nd June 2008, 00:24 | #4 (permalink) | | Super Tenerifian Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: El Medano Gender: Posts: 332 My Mood:  | Quote: Originally Posted by zsazsa73  well i didnt listen to hear and now n a pickle, i lent a friend some money and they are very slow at paying back, what do i do? | If it is a substantial sum you must be prepared to lose a friend,if they have given you no explanation for the delay they cant value your friendship very highly __________________
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| | | | | 22nd June 2008, 06:48 | #5 (permalink) | | Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: adeje Gender: Posts: 38 My Mood: | it was a large amount and without it their marriage would have been in trouble.  | | | | | 22nd June 2008, 08:27 | #6 (permalink) | | Super Tenerifian Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Las Chafiras Gender: Posts: 551 My Mood:  | Been there, got the T shirt.
The friendship is over, accept that.
I got mine back by being the most annoying person in the world and accepting tiny payments each week. As soon as the balance was down to an acceptable level I stopped chasing, and never heard from the "friend" again. | | | | | 22nd June 2008, 08:38 | #7 (permalink) | | Super Tenerifian Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Roque del Conde Gender: Posts: 693 My Mood:  | Same thing happened to my hubby, we have known one of the lookie lookie men for over ten years. He's from Senegal and a really nice guy. He had a bad year last year as the Island was so quiet and in November he was due to go back home. Obviously he was short of cash to take home to his family so he asked Ian and he said no problem (softie!!). Since then we have hardly seen him, he sent one of the other LL's in with some money but not much. Heard he was working for 3 months on the Siam Park and then was not paid but god knows. We have to write it off as bad judgement but its a kick in the teeth! Also bit worried that hubby will greet him "Glasgow Style!!" when they next cross paths!! __________________
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| | | | | 22nd June 2008, 09:42 | #8 (permalink) | | Super Tenerifian Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Tenerife Gender: Posts: 362 My Mood:  | ok then,maybe when we borrow to friends or family we should agree a date to be paid back and put it in writing both signing it.its happened to me and it was family,they just dont talk about it.i actually fell for it a second time but in a different way.when i ran my pub i offered to do a buffet for 80 but only wanted the money for the food which was roughly £200.2 weeks later i was promised the money the following week,this never happened.i never mentioned it again and i never got an explanation,they go out and have a brand new car,very frustating sometimes think i have mug written across my forehead.
dont really no what we would achieve by having a signed piece of paper but if they borrowed of the bank they would have to pay it back with interest.
cant pick your families but you do pick your friends,sometimes we get it wrong. | | | | | 22nd June 2008, 09:45 | #9 (permalink) | | Tenerifian Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Lower Saxony, Germany Gender: Posts: 206 | Quote: Originally Posted by zsazsa73 i lent a friend some money and they are very slow at paying back, what do i do? | Such a person is not your friend, Zsazsa, are they? Write him/her a letter demanding the 2,000 GBP you have lent them. S/he will answer correcting you with the proper sum and then you have the evidence to sue  __________________
I was born in Europe, sector Germany. | | | | | 22nd June 2008, 10:22 | #10 (permalink) | | Super Tenerifian Join Date: May 2006 Location: Newcastle & Torviscas Gender: Posts: 795 My Mood:  | TheWhites have suggested the best course of action. Tell them you need it, accept a few euro a week and then tell them where to go when you have got it. They ain't your mates! __________________
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