Daverock

Can I start off by saying I do not want to see this thread used to criticise anyone on this Forum nor do I want to see examples quoted from other threads. This is not my intention in starting the thread. I would like it to be a friendly and general discussion. If it does become personal or a "name and shame" job then I will close it.

We've often seen mentioned that the written word on it's own is a flat medium and open to misinterpretation. I'm guilty occasionally of reading a post and getting my hackles up. Usually I wait a while, calm a bit then respond or ignore it. Sometimes I bite straight away. I'm sure every one of us is guilty of biting at some time and often unneccesarily. Smilies help a lot with reading the true meaning of a post.

I've been giving this a bit more thought recently and I've come to the conclusion that as the reader of a thread/post you have a choice. You can choose how to react. Responding with venom or in anger can detract from an otherwise healthy discussion and can take a thread totally off topic. Of course there will be the odd time when a strong response is needed.

Responding politely can change the whole tone of the thread and sometimes the mood on the board at a particular time.

If you think someone's post is having at dig at you would it not be better to PM that person and ask what they meant by it? I've done this with fellow Mods and they have with me, often to find that the meaning of a post has been totally taken the wrong way.

On the other hand do you think it is up to the poster to write posts in a way that leaves no doubt as to their intentions?

Just a few thoughts from me and I'd be interested to hear your views.

Rolzysmum

Personally I don't look to the forum for arguments, disagreements, rows - call them whatever you want. I have had more than enough arguments in my life without needing to find any here. I enjoy the forum as a little light relief, usually after finishing work and certainly don't want confrontation of any kind.

There will always be posts where people have differences of opinion, but unless somebody forces their point of view as being the only correct option, then there is nothing wrong with having a debate.
I know what you mean about some things being misinterpreted, but if that's the case, why not just clarify the posters intent before going off on one?

I don't think things should ever become personal - at the end of the day we are all a part of what makes Tenerife Forum.

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Must be where I am going wrong ...........

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Daverock

I should have written in brackets (OG is the exception)

lundi2407

Can I start by saying a big thankyou Dave for saying, what I feel some of us have felt many times.

I totally agree with what you say. Personally I feel that there are some people, who can misinterpret what is said. I think this will always happen. And like you say, if upon reading a post and you feel your (as you so sweetly put it) shackles rising... I suggest that you walk away and reconsider biting...

At the end of the day this has always been to me a friendly and happy forum and hope that it stays that way..

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yes dave of course we agree with you i myself have been guilty of a little nibble not a big bite, but we all have off days and they quickly forgave me like the friends that they are,

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hopper

Have I used enough smilies to demonstrate my point?

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Daverock

Ah but it was not as a criticism.

hopper

Hence the smilies I was joking.

And there we have it, a typical example of what you were saying.

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